The psychiatrist patiently explained what the alcohol was doing to my body. That night I took myself alone and scared to my first AA meeting. But being rigourously honest from the start, and adopting the 12 steps completely into my life, and learning how to live properly all over again saved my life. I'm a totally re-created and brand new woman who loves this life very much. I'm just curious about whether or not there are any 12 step type programs that don't involve so much of the religious stuff that AA seems to?I never looked back, and I never ever took another drink. AA is not about stopping drinking, as much as it is about how to live correctly. Since it takes 90 days for the toxins and chemicals to leave your body, I can tell you it was honestly day 94 when I put a big black X on my calendar that I realized, I had a happy day, and I felt good and I did not want a drink. Do you know when I first got sober, I couldn't walk properly? I think that part of the program may turn some people away, if they're not God going folk.....The biggest one was that you shouldn't date for your first year of sobriety.The way I see it is that you can't stop living life. I know this is only my opinion but I feel pretty strongly about it.And you’ll often hear sayings, like, “Odds are good that you’ll meet somebody, but the goods are odd.” And I couldn’t agree more. You gonna focus on recovery.”“Well that sounds boring,” I said.When I relapsed for the umpteenth time and ended up with a militant black lesbian for a sponsor, she was very clear that I was not going to fuck my way through the rooms this time around.“Baby, you only going to go to women’s meetings and gay meetings,” she said.“But how am I going to get laid going to women’s meetings and gay meetings? But I had just come out of a psych ward, and had also just cracked my head open when I fell backwards after having a grand mal seizure when my meds were changed, so I was wiling to try it another way.Looking back, I was sort of following that rule, but I should have done it much sooner.I think it depends on the person and how you are doing in your recovery.
That’s one of the main upsides to dating somebody who’s also sober.
but for the most part, removing religious undertones is just a matter of perspective.. Believe in a door knob for all we care, or believe in the group as a whole.
Quite often, if you see religion in something, where there is no direct reference to God or Christianity in general, it is bacause of your upbringing (mine is the same - I see religon in everything, and it's hard to just ignore it.. Just as long as you have a Higher Power that helps you to stay sober. There are open meetings, attend them and see for yourself. One of the biggest Myths, is this pre-conceived false belief by outsiders who do not understand.
I think I hooked up with five different people within my first four months, and that’s not counting the occasional rendezvous with an old using buddy. Romance took me out of the rooms more times than I’d like to admit. I think dating in the rooms of AA is not unlike hooking up in prison.
There is a limited supply of broken people and we recycle each other.